How to get married for less

How to get married for less than $25,000

Every year, we hear about the average cost of weddings, and every year that goes by that I’ve been married, I am thankful that we spent about $5k for 50 guests to share our wedding day with us instead of something larger and more costly. So today, I will share our wedding budget and how we kept costs down. We also planned the whole thing in about 6 months (engaged in early February, married in early August). I’ll add some photos, but you can see more on my Pinterest board. Our wedding happened pre-Pinterest, so now there are many cost-saving ideas out there. Our goal was to have an elegant, low-key wedding with our closest family/friends. My parents liked this idea a lot, and were supportive of a small wedding, and so paid for nearly all of it. I think the ultimate breakdown was that we paid about $1,000 and my parents paid about $4,000.

Wedding Budget

Reception:
Food and Beverage        $1,600.00
Books for table numbers        $200.00
Wine      $0.00
Total:    $1,800.00

For our reception, we chose a local fancy restaurant, with no dance. We really just wanted to be able to talk to each of our guests, and we had no desire to dance the night away. Originally, we were going to use the restaurant meeting room space, which had no rental fee, but they generously offered to set aside part of the main restaurant (they have curtain things to make areas more private) so we could more comfortably seat 50 people, also with no fee. They also happened to have musicians that evening (a pianist and violinist) so we got to enjoy the lovely music without dancing. We used our favorite children’s books as table numbers (I think we had 7 tables) so the restaurant staff knew where to seat folks based on our rather complicated seating chart (we didn’t want chaos with seating since we were in a small space). We did pay a corking fee to bring in our own wine for toasting (most of our family aren’t big drinkers and DH’s aunts gifted us with the wine), and we limited meal options to two selections so we could anticipate the cost. At the end of the night, my dad just paid the check like you would at any restaurant, and the owners generously gave us a $50 gift card as a wedding present-we used it on our 1st anniversary to go back and celebrate.
2955940894_8016003670_oAttire and Beauty:
Gown/Alterations        $175.00
Headpiece        $50.00
Bride’s Shoes        $75.00
Groom’s Suit        $200.00 (gift)
Total:    $300.00

My gown was a J.Crew wedding dress on sale which I bought before we were even officially engaged (short story: I had loved the style for a long time and so when I saw it went on clearance, my now husband said to just get it, since he was in the process of ring shopping). I had a custom floral hair piece made by Myra on Etsy (no veil), and I got my ruby red silk Caparros shoes on Zappos, which went perfectly with my silk wedding gown. My husband’s godmother is a tailor/seamstress and helped with slight alterations to my gown and also generously purchased a nice black suit for him to wear, and we got a red tie that matched my shoes. My sister did my hair on the big day and I did my own makeup.

Ceremony:
Location Fee        $300.00
Officiant Fee/Donation        $100.00
Musicians        $250.00
Total:    $650.00

We got married at our church, which happens to be the local Cathedral, an already beautiful space. We didn’t add any decorations, since the space was newly remodeled. They charged parishioners $300 for the location, plus suggested a $100 donation for the priest. We hired one of the regular church cantors (songleaders) to sing, and one of my cousins played the piano and helped us choose wedding music, which was a very lovely personal addition to the ceremony/mass.

Flowers and Décor:
Roses        $135.00
Hypericum        $109.00
Ribbon/pins        $10.00
Bird nest for rings  $10.00
Total:    $264.00

We used Fifty Flowers and Grower’s Box for the bouquets that we put on the tables at the reception venue and which I held, plus boutonnières for our attendants and petals for the flower girl. My mom and a close friend helped me put together the flowers, and my mom had purchased clear vases at Goodwill and Savers to put them in–probably paying about $.50 per vase, so I didn’t include that in the price. We then let folks take home the vases/bouquets to enjoy, and we kept one. I made a little bird nest for the ring bearer to carry in our rings with supplies from a local craft store.

Photography:
Photographer        $500.00
Printing of photos        $200.00
Album from Target        $20.00
Videographer   $0.00
Total:    $720.00

This is the one area where I would recommend spending money, because the only thing you have at the end of the day are memories, and photos are a great reminder. We had a friend who was a skilled photographer, but who had never before shot a wedding, do our photos. He’s now a professional wedding photographer in the Twin Cities. One of my cousins did wedding videography for us as a gift, which was very generous. My uncle/godfather owns a photo printing shop and printed all our photos at a nice discount. I put 4×6 shots into an album from Target, and we also framed a number of photos which are still displayed in our apartment.

Stationery:
Invitations/Reply Cards        $300.00
Announcements:     $50.00
Envelopes        $25.00
Postage        $95.00
Total:    $470.00

We designed our own invitations in Photoshop, and had a local printer print them. We purchased fancy folding envelopes from some website I can’t remember (they were like folders), and got custom stamps with our engagement photos on them from Zazzle. Since we had a small wedding, we sent announcements out to those we didn’t invite to let them know our new names/address.

Wedding Rings:
His Ring        $325.00
Her Ring        $120.00
Total:    $445.00

We got both of our rings from e-weddingbands.com, which I highly recommend. They are great quality, and have free engraving. They were the cheapest we could find for 18k white gold bands. We tried on bands locally to get an idea of width and get our accurate ring sizes.

Transportation:
Car Rental        $0.00
Total:    $0.00

My close friend’s boyfriend (now fiance!) worked for a local car dealer, and got us an awesome vehicle as our “getaway” car, and also acted as our chauffeur. It was amazing to ride in a VW Phaeton, and we actually went through the Starbucks drive-through in it before going to our reception. This was an amazing gift.

Gifts:
Favors (Mr. B’s Chocolates)        $140.00
Favor boxes        $30.00
Total:    $170.00
Personal Additions:
Marriage license        $40.00
Premarital Weekend by Diocese        $140.00

We hated the idea of throwaway wedding favors, so we did something everybody loves: sweets. We got fancy Belgian-style chocolates in our favorite flavors and bought favor boxes online. This was the only truly “putzy” thing we did for the wedding, assembling those boxes and putting two chocolates into each box. We then set one box at each place setting at the restaurant, and we heard later that people loved this, trading each other for different flavors. Also, a Minnesota marriage license was $40.00 in 2008 (no idea if that’s gone up), and we were required to attend a marriage preparation course by our diocese, which cost $140. I would say this was worth it, as we also got to meet with a married couple for our premarital counseling and find out where we differed on our premarital assessment (required by the diocese).

Grand Total:    $4,999.00

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One thought on “How to get married for less

  1. clicked on over from the MMM forum, I just had to comment that we got married on 1-08-08 and I wore capparos (not red, though) and a J.Crew ivory tea length bridesmaid dress- that I got on clearance before we were even engaged. Got married in a public park. Went to an upscale local (to the wedding location, at least) sushi place for dinner for our “crowd” of 20-some guests. Not much planning, food wise, just let everyone order whatever they wanted and arranged for a series of appetizers to be on the table upon seating. Surprised by a 25% happy hour discount because we were seated by 6 pm! A wonderful wedding, a superb dinner, an amazing time, fond memories… and all at a cost I can brag about!

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